I still say that max's memory mangement is insane.

Sorry, I haven't read all you posts. But I would recommend the following to avoid Memory Leaks:

Type YourType
	Field bIsDeleted:Byte
	
	Method Remove:Byte()
		If bIsDeleted = False Then
			'Place your One-Time-Deleting-Actions here.
			'For Example: Removing Object from global List.
		End If
		bIsDeleted = True
		
		Return Tru
	End Method
	
	Function DeleteCheck:Byte(objVarCheck:YourType)
		If objVarCheck = Null Then Return False
		If objVarCheck.bIsDeleted = True Then
			objVarCheck = Null
		End If
		Return True
	End Function
End Type

Now all you have to do is checking every Link to an YourType once a Frame with Deletecheck. Simply "DeleteCheck(YourLink)". If you also want to know, whether the Object was Deleted in this Frame or not, use this:

Local objTemp:YourType = objRealLink2Check
If YourType.DeleteCheck(objTemp) = True And objTemp = Null Then
	'Now do your Deleting-Actions you need objRealLink2Check for.
	objRealLink2Check = Null
End If

If you don't need the Link for you Final Action, the following will do:

If YourType.DeleteCheck(objRealLink2Check) = True And objRealLink2Check = Null Then
	
End If