Have you ever considered that this is an unhealthy fetish?
Fetish? Nope, not in my view. Erotic arts and games are available since thousands of years, more or less openly published depending on the prevailing manners. The current Dutch culture, for how long it lasts, allows us to do our work without being outcasts, quite the contrary actually. Whereas it could well be that the current culture of the USA, where you live, thinks of us as perverts with an unhealthy fetish. It is as it is.