you see a community the way you envision one to be
Your half right actually Red, only those more idyllic forums do exist and so when I come here it's a bit of a culture shock !
A forum is shaped by the majority of it's userbase. If the bulk of a userbase holds particular values then the minority will either inherit those values or go elsewhere. Sadly on these forums some negative values are predominant, and yet we wonder why Blitz staff rarely show their heads here...